Wilde, wrote another, “should take care of her two children instead of dating one”. (“Was Olivia cheating?” Us Weekly intervened on the cover, presumably referring to her former fiancé, actor Jason Sudeikis, who Wilde broke up with last year.)
How can we still be here? The Bible may not have looked kindly at women who dared to be in a relationship with anyone other than the father of their children, but since then there has been backlash in every decade in modern times against the double standards that have been seen becoming men Praised for their sexual prowess and condemned women for it (especially if, God forbid, they have children).
Harry Styles is a star in Olivia Wilde’s latest film, Don’t Worry Darling.Recognition:AP
In 1968, Grammy-winning hit Harper Valley PTA (later known through Dolly Parton) celebrated the miniskirt amid global struggles for women’s rights that later culminated in Australia’s 1984 Federal Gender Discrimination Act. Single mother of a teenage daughter who was despised in town for “running around with men and getting wild” for fighting back by pointing out the hypocrisy of those who condemned her. (The song, later voted one of Rolling Stone’s “100 Greatest Country Songs of All Time,” and written by Tom T. Hall, is based on an incident he made in his hometown in Kentucky in the mid-1940s witnessed.)
In 1975, Australian activist Anne Summers’ seminal feminist work, Damned Whores and God’s Police, became a surprising bestseller. The lack of a culture in which women were viewed as anything other than virtuous mothers or “bad girls” is the “main obstacle to women’s rebellion and what keeps women physically and psychologically bound to their family-centered roles”. (More than 100,000 copies have been sold.)
It went on and on until five years ago the mother of four, Kim Kardashian, was convicted for appearing naked on the cover of Paper Magazine – “Usually not. But … you’re someone’s mother, “wrote actress Naya Rivera – and Rachel Khona of the popular parenting blog Scary Mommy hit back and wrote:” Should mothers suddenly make metamorphoses after having a child? … Maybe we should respect women’s sexuality [the] Just like us men. “
This didn’t help a woman in Byron Bay I know who was shamed by a colleague last month for having had a sex life under the influence of an XX chromosome (and with three children by her name).
“I happened to complain about meeting someone [for a date], they canceled, and I made a joke: “Maybe I’ll just find someone else,” she says.
She said, ‘Maybe you should spend some time with your kids. ‘I said’ Oooooh ‘. I just said, “Ah, you spend a lot of time with your father.” ”
It’s annoying. As this mother said, “You are expected to be quite self-sacrificing and have some needs [you have] outside of your children is considered betrayal of the role you have chosen. “
Professor Mary Lou Rasmussen, a specialist in gender and sex studies at the Australian National University, isn’t surprised that mothers are still exposed to this censorship and prejudice.
“You’d just be surprised if you didn’t believe Australia is still sexist, and I think it is,” she says. (As an example, she refers to the longstanding media and parliamentary treatment of former Deputy Prime Minister Barnaby Joyce’s “love child”, which was the result of an affair he had during his marriage – as a “private matter” like the sex life of his female counterparts former Prime Minister Julia Gillard and former Australian Democratic Leader Cheryl Kernot, that is, with scrutiny and condemnation under the guise of public interest.)
This is why it is so important to question the comments that have emerged in the course of the alleged relationship between Wilde and Styles.
“They are part of important conversations about sexuality and consent, as well as women’s ability to do what they want with their bodies, and also have sex lives that are non-reproductive.”
Although she fails to see the taboo on mothers who are sexual will soon or never go away – “I think that in the same way that we continue to have sexism, we will continue to have sexism; It is part of the currency of our society and we will not wake up and both will be gone. “- She sees progress in the form of more realistic portrayals of women in popular culture.
She refers to the portrayal of the “highly sexualized” mother in the new TV show Bump – about a teenage mother and her own mother, played by Claudia Karvan, who is romantically interested in one of her colleagues – as “quite radical”. “This is really just an attempt to move beyond these limits to the sexuality of the mothers,” says Rasmussen of the show that airs on Stan, owned by Nine, the publisher of this imprint.
Bump creator Kelsey Munro said this was not her intention when she scripted the show and then developed it with producers Karvan and John Edwards.
“It was just that they are people and people who like sex and have sex,” says Munro, 44, mother of two. “We were just trying to create interesting characters that were kind of naturalistic and reflected our collective life experience in the writing room.”
She is stunned to learn of the backlash Wilde has received.
“I can’t believe that in 2021 people will criticize single mothers for having sex. Are you kidding me? It just seems like Victorian or something … When Olivia Wilde goes out with Harry Styles, shit, he’s hot, that’s great. Good to her. “
Munro pauses before getting to the main point. “Didn’t she make that Booksmart movie?” she asks Wilde, referring to the 2019 coming-of-age comedy, about two foul high school girls. (She did.) “That’s a great movie.”
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Samantha Selinger-Morris is a lifestyle writer for the Sydney Morning Herald and The Age.
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