Arie Luyendyk Jr. and Lauren Burnham, who got engaged in season 22 of “The Bachelor” and are pregnant with twins, shared their baby trip in a new video. (Photo: Walt Disney Tv via Getty Images / Lorenzo Bevilaqua)
Although Lauren Burnham and Arie Luyendyk Jr. are happily expecting twins, the Bachelor stars say they took “the wrong approach” to conception.
The couple, who married in 2019 after meeting on the reality show’s 22nd season, announced on a YouTube video on Monday that they had sex for 18 days while trying to conceive. “We will tell you how to make a baby!” Burnham, 29, the owner of the Shades of Rose clothing line, said.
In May, the couple (who share 21-month-old daughter Alessi) experienced a “miscarriage,” which the American Pregnancy Association claims occurs when an embryo dies but is not expelled from the body. This type of loss is usually identified by a lack of fetal heartbeat during an ultrasound or lack of pregnancy symptoms. At some point after their miscarriage, Burnham said the couple was given medical discharge to try again.
“Trying it out was fun,” admitted Luyendyk Jr., 39, and Burnham added, “For a while. It was fun until it wasn’t.” The couple chose to use daily ovulation strips (OTC) to measure Burnham’s fertile period. Women are generally most fertile about six days before ovulation (when an egg is released for fertilization, which happens about two weeks before menstruation begins) and one day after ovulation.
“And then every day it was like a high fertility day,” recalled Luyendyk Jr., “… it was like 18 days in a row.” The couple admitted their approach may not have been scientifically based. “Maybe we were just having fun the first two weeks,” said Luyendyk Jr.
“At first we just said, ‘We’re going to have sex every day …'” he said what Burnham called “the wrong approach,” adding, “My doctor says,” Yo, you need to calm down. ‘”She said,” Aria is like’ No. I’m not on board for that. I am exhausted. He says: “It’s just not fun anymore. Count me out. ‘ I got mad. “
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Eventually, the couple decided to quit the stress (“We just gave up,” Burnham said) and had sex every other day for five or six months, with Burnham also taking prenatal vitamins and an essential oil (her doctor) dismissed the latter as effective ), and in December they became pregnant with twins (a boy and a girl).
While the baby-making journey can be equally fun and stressful, daily trials are, according to Dr. Christina Jung, a complex family planning scholar at the University of California at Los Angeles, is actually unnecessary. “Every woman is different, but the days leading up to ovulation are generally considered fertile times,” she told Yahoo Life. Jung adds that an 18-day fertility window is unlikely, and notes that some ovulation tests can produce false positive results due to certain medical conditions, irregular cycles, or having tests done at different times of the day when the results can fluctuate. “It’s also possible that people are misinterpreting the results,” she says.
Since sperm remain viable in the female reproductive tract for about five days, couples should have sex for a few days before a woman releases an egg for fertilization, explains Jung. “Once the egg is released, it’s only viable for about 12 to 24 hours – then the chances of pregnancy decrease.”
Ovulation strips can help couples determine their fertile period by measuring luteinizing hormone (commonly known as LH) in a woman’s urine, which Jung says increases in levels before ovulation. “You want to pinpoint the ovulation window, so if you’re likely to ovulate on Friday, you might have sex on Wednesday,” she said. “We also recommend keeping an ovulation journal and allowing two or three cycles to collect historical data.”
There are other inexpensive ways to track ovulation, such as: B. Monitoring a woman’s daily basal temperature (according to the Mayo Clinic, ovulation causes a small increase in temperature, so tracking an increase over time is a way of predicting when ovulation will occur) and monitoring cervical mucus more meticulous approach to detect slight changes in cervical secretions around ovulation. “However, these methods are only useful if you have very regular cycles,” says Jung.
If couples want to have sex every day, that’s fine too, and no method of conception is foolproof. “Sometimes couples can do everything right and not get pregnant, while others use protection and still get pregnant,” says Jung. “There is still a lot to learn for scientists, but so far this one [principals] direct our care. “
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