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I solely need intercourse twice a month

I am a 48 year old married woman and I find that my sex drive is really different. Usually there are a few days a month that I feel like it, and then my interest wears off until that point in the following month. I’m assuming this has to do with my cycle, but do I just have to accept this as my new normal?

I hope you are still using contraception because the excitement you feel at ovulation is natural – it is your body’s last attempt to get you pregnant. Women who can see 50 on the horizon assume that fertility is a ship that sailed a long time ago, but 48-year-olds can and do get pregnant.

Not only can birth control make sure you don’t accidentally get pregnant, but it can also keep you feeling better all month long. Professor Lesley Regan, a retired director of the Royal College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists, recommends women your age use the Mirena Coil because it not only provides contraception, but also releases small amounts of the hormone progesterone, which helps regulate yours Periods during perimenopause.

Most women go through menopause between the ages of 45 and 55. The good news is that you can also use a Mirena coil with low-dose transdermal hormone replacement therapy (HRT), which will protect you from some of the more nasty side effects of menopause, such as hot flashes, night sweats, palpitations, headaches, insomnia, fatigue, or bone loss.

If you are perimenopausal this would explain your fluctuating libido, but the best way to stay sexually active is. . . stay sexually active. In midlife, arousal, penetration, and orgasm maintain blood flow, which keeps vaginal tissues healthy. As we age, our nerve endings become less sensitive, which can mean that orgasm lasts longer. As the vaginal tissue is more sensitive, it becomes increasingly important to find ways to increase stimulation without additional friction.

Fortunately, vibrator technology has come up with a brilliant solution. Sonic technology enables stimulation waves to transmit sensations to the entire internal structure of the clitoris. Although sound wave vibrators like the Lelo Sila or Sona Cruise are not specifically designed for women in perimenopause, their direct contact with the delicate tissue of your clitoris makes them ideal sex toys for middle-aged women.

Women in their late 40s also assume that a decrease in sexual desire is inevitable, but it doesn’t have to be. Perimenopause is a hormonal roller coaster ride, but the ovaries lower estrogen production in a pretty messy way. Sometimes they bubble a little more or a little less, and irregular estrogen levels mean that testosterone levels can sometimes be comparatively higher. In fact, some women experience an unexpected sex surge just as they expect their interest in sex to drop off a cliff.

You are experiencing a peak in your libido in the middle of your menstrual cycle, but as you near menopause and your cycle becomes increasingly irregular, you may find that you want to have sex at the end of the month or not at all. In this situation, you may not feel like initiating sex, but that doesn’t mean you won’t feel responsive cravings when your husband initiates. Remember, keeping sex alive in a marriage means staying open to the options and realizing that if you don’t use it, you will lose it.

While older couples experience a decrease in sexual frequency, this is more closely related to the length of the relationship than to the person’s age. Later in life, quality is more important than quantity as the male libido also decreases. As long as the sex you’re having is riddled with regular kissing, cuddling, and skin-to-skin contact, you don’t need to worry.